This ad for Unicharm’s Moony diapers, called “Moms Don’t Cry,” has kicked up a lot of discussion in Japan.

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The video depicts a day in the life of a new mom: waking up at night to soothe a crying baby, carrying heavy shopping bags while wearing her infant, and jumping out of her bath to comfort her little one. She sits dazed in a messy room.

After these struggles, the video shows the mother becoming tearful when her baby grabs her finger and seems to smile. It ends with a blissful moment of snuggling and the copy: “One day, it will be a precious memory.”

And the baby’s dad? He appears in only 4 seconds of the 121-second video, and he’s basically a non-character.

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We see a man’s back in the hospital room shortly after the baby is born (2.38 seconds) and later catch a glimpse of his face in the taxi looking on anxiously as the mother holds the baby (1.71 seconds). Only the woman is shown caring for the child and doing housework, while the man is offscreen.

The video drew mixed reactions and hundreds of comments on Twitter and other sites.

“Don’t glorify solo child-raising,” wrote Hiroki Komazaki, founder of a non-profit organization that supports single and working parents.

感動ムービーのつもりで作っているのだろうが、ワンオペ育児賛美にしか見えない。

おむつ会社なら、「母親は1人で頑張るべきだし、それが美しい」という社会的抑圧と戦うべきだ。

そういう抑圧が、産後鬱を生み、児童虐待を生み、少子化を生… https://t.co/7PtRlU82hj

— 駒崎弘樹@障害児のために働く看護師募集中 (@Hiroki_Komazaki)

“There are plenty of moms like this,” someone else wrote.

ムーニーのCMが賛否両論みたいだ。酷い、あり得ない、女ばかりに押し付けて、という否定的な意見と、今の自分、過去の自分を見ているようで涙が出てきた、実際はもっと過酷だという意見。私も過去の自分と同じだと泣けてくる方だ。このCMは現実に近い。このCMみたいなお母さんはいっぱいいる。

— ちゃわんたけ (@chawantakegohan)

Another said it was “positive and encouraging content for anyone who has to work hard alone.”

話題のムーニーのCM、ワンオペを賛美する内容だとかでぶっ叩いてる人もいるけど、わたしは両親が地方とかもういないとか、旦那が単身赴任だとか激務だとか、少なくとも今あのCMと同じ状況で全部一人で頑張らざるを得ない人にとって何らかの肯定と励ましになる内容だと思ったけどな。

— 肩こり (@tanukihige)

“Distressing flashback.”

“I felt nauseous.”

例のムーニーのcmを見た母たちが「一番しんどい時を思い出して吐く」と口々に仰るので見てみたら私ももれなくゲロしそうになった。電気をつける事も忘れ薄暗くなった部屋でボロボロ涙を流しながら、ぐずりまくる乳児の娘を抱きしめていた日を思い出してしまった。
応援されてる気にはなれないなあ…

— つきこ (@tukino_tuki)

Unicharm, the company that made the diaper ad, also posts “helpful information on child-raising” on its website. In the example “typical day of a new mother,” after the “father leaves for work” at 8AM, the mom does the housework and changes and feeds the baby every two hours.

The parenting roles presented by Unicharm’s ad and website represent reality for many families in Japan.

A 2011 government survey that tracked how much time Japanese parents with kids under six spend on housework and childcare found that the average husband spent one hour and seven minutes a day on these tasks, while the average wife spent 7 hours and 41 minutes.

The Japanese government aims to increase that measure to two and a half hours by 2020. It also wants to up the number of new dads taking advantage of Japan’s generous paid family leave benefits, from 2.3% in 2015 to 13%.

Unicharm’s press office told BuzzFeed News that it didn’t intend to present an ideal of family roles in its ad, or let fathers off the hook for doing their share.

“It is never recommended for one person to handle all the child care,” a company representative said.

“Because there are so many mothers suffering from the difference between ideal child rearing and reality, we wanted to cheer them on by portraying a realistic situation in the video. Our company’s wish was to keep cheering the mothers who want their babies to grow up abundantly and heartily.

We have received various opinions, but we do not plan to delete the video. We want many people to watch the video so more fathers would participate in childcare and more mothers would gain support from the people around them.”

This post was translated from Japanese.























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